I followed your tips and went dancing alone for the first time, and i had a blast. Now i beat myself up for not doing it earlier! Looking fwd to a lot more dancing in the future. Thank you!!!
Mar 21, 2023·edited Mar 21, 2023Liked by Tatiana Gallardo
I’m here because I googled “how to go dancing alone” and I’m so thankful this popped up. I recently impulse bought 2 tickets to a festival in Oakland with pretty much the bill of my dreams and then promptly realized I will likely have to fly solo (both at the show and literally all the way from the Midwest😬). It’s over 3 months away and I’m already overcome with intense anxiety about what to do but as a mom of a young toddler/employee/partner/grad student/dancing Queen I feel like I owe it to myself, y’know? Thanks for doing this AND writing about it!
Rose! Your comment brought a smile to my face. I'm sure the concert will be a BLAST. Dancing alone has changed my life (and I do it wherever I go—like argentina currently!!)
I’m an old lady compared to y’all but I’ve been dancing and going out alone since 1995!! It’s SO MUCH FUN!!
There was (is?) a place in Pittsburgh called The Rose and they had a disco night every Sunday. I was there! They also had a stage in front of the dance floor that you could get up on to dance…I did - front and center - and had the time of my life!
So glad to read this article! You be you, and have a blast doing it 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much, Maki. Couldn't agree more—learning to enjoy being on our own is one of the most empowering moves we can make. Hope you have some fun solo moments ahead!
Yes, and you know it's also that other adage, it makes the heart grow fonder. I have a small family now so don't venture out often. I have to make a conscious effort to. Well I enjoy the solitude and when I rejoin, inevitably i'm reminded of all the things I love about them.
It's a tricky balance, right? Family + solo. I am trying to navigate it as well. I function best with lots of solitude and lots of healthy socialization (followed by more solitude) haha
Not to make this comment about me, but I can so identify with your piece. A mark of good writing (the illustrations are exceptional too) though, for readers to see their experience in what the writer is conveying. I’m more a solitary, head-bopping concert goer - not dance (the Cuban dance gene missed me), but I know the leaving “in a state of mind-blown euphoria” feeling. I sometimes walk around after the concert just to make the experience last. Scoping “out the situation” - yes. Helps you get your bearings. I’m usually one of the older ones in the crowd, so I’m wary of sending ‘creep’ vibes that young women especially need to be aware of. I’m not so much aware of what I’m wearing - maybe I should be?
Hahah omg this comment made me laugh out loud ("I'm wary of sending 'creep' signals'"). I'm sure you don't! I must say: I find it incredibly inspiring how many solo concerts you go to. If your'e there for the music—why else does anything else, like company, matter?!
YES. Solo dates are my literal favorite thing. My biggest recco would be to a plan a night or day popping around your happy places. For me, that means: bike riding, taking myself out to a bomb meal, stopping by a stationary and/or book store, and sketching somewhere public in the sun.
I love this SO MUCH! Both the theme and the execution! The illustrations are so on point: the gifs! The food truck! But the abuela is the star of this piece; the TikTok clip legit made me laugh out loud. That level of carefree joy? Lifegoals.
Lolol, oh my goodness. I needed to include actual video footage of my abuela because she's too cute and hip-shaking not to!! It's literally her every single day. Thank you so much for the kind words, too!
Tatiana! It's always a pleasure to read your work. I have not danced alone...but I most definitely channel my Cuban abuela when I hear a beat. The TikTok was also fabulous. Keep dancing.
L O V E D this! I am definitely a private at-home dancer (wait that kind of sounds like I'm a dancer for hire lol) but never thought of going alone to dance. Thanks for opening my eyes to this! 💗✨
I followed your tips and went dancing alone for the first time, and i had a blast. Now i beat myself up for not doing it earlier! Looking fwd to a lot more dancing in the future. Thank you!!!
I’m here because I googled “how to go dancing alone” and I’m so thankful this popped up. I recently impulse bought 2 tickets to a festival in Oakland with pretty much the bill of my dreams and then promptly realized I will likely have to fly solo (both at the show and literally all the way from the Midwest😬). It’s over 3 months away and I’m already overcome with intense anxiety about what to do but as a mom of a young toddler/employee/partner/grad student/dancing Queen I feel like I owe it to myself, y’know? Thanks for doing this AND writing about it!
Rose! Your comment brought a smile to my face. I'm sure the concert will be a BLAST. Dancing alone has changed my life (and I do it wherever I go—like argentina currently!!)
Good luck :)
Hi there---I tried to send you an email--but would love to talk about getting you on the podcast sometime soon. I'm at Thanksflms@gmail.com
I’m an old lady compared to y’all but I’ve been dancing and going out alone since 1995!! It’s SO MUCH FUN!!
There was (is?) a place in Pittsburgh called The Rose and they had a disco night every Sunday. I was there! They also had a stage in front of the dance floor that you could get up on to dance…I did - front and center - and had the time of my life!
So glad to read this article! You be you, and have a blast doing it 🎉🎉🎉
Thanks so much! I need to be hitting this place when I make it over to Pittsburgh!
Awesome article. Loved it. Dancing is not my thing, though you make me wish it were.
Going out alone sometimes is important - learning to enjoy your own company is liberating.
Thank you so much, Maki. Couldn't agree more—learning to enjoy being on our own is one of the most empowering moves we can make. Hope you have some fun solo moments ahead!
Yes, and you know it's also that other adage, it makes the heart grow fonder. I have a small family now so don't venture out often. I have to make a conscious effort to. Well I enjoy the solitude and when I rejoin, inevitably i'm reminded of all the things I love about them.
It's a tricky balance, right? Family + solo. I am trying to navigate it as well. I function best with lots of solitude and lots of healthy socialization (followed by more solitude) haha
Not to make this comment about me, but I can so identify with your piece. A mark of good writing (the illustrations are exceptional too) though, for readers to see their experience in what the writer is conveying. I’m more a solitary, head-bopping concert goer - not dance (the Cuban dance gene missed me), but I know the leaving “in a state of mind-blown euphoria” feeling. I sometimes walk around after the concert just to make the experience last. Scoping “out the situation” - yes. Helps you get your bearings. I’m usually one of the older ones in the crowd, so I’m wary of sending ‘creep’ vibes that young women especially need to be aware of. I’m not so much aware of what I’m wearing - maybe I should be?
Hahah omg this comment made me laugh out loud ("I'm wary of sending 'creep' signals'"). I'm sure you don't! I must say: I find it incredibly inspiring how many solo concerts you go to. If your'e there for the music—why else does anything else, like company, matter?!
I felt the rhythm in this piece! I am taking myself on my first true, intention filled solo date this week - ANY TIPS?!
YES. Solo dates are my literal favorite thing. My biggest recco would be to a plan a night or day popping around your happy places. For me, that means: bike riding, taking myself out to a bomb meal, stopping by a stationary and/or book store, and sketching somewhere public in the sun.
<3 good luck
I love this SO MUCH! Both the theme and the execution! The illustrations are so on point: the gifs! The food truck! But the abuela is the star of this piece; the TikTok clip legit made me laugh out loud. That level of carefree joy? Lifegoals.
Lolol, oh my goodness. I needed to include actual video footage of my abuela because she's too cute and hip-shaking not to!! It's literally her every single day. Thank you so much for the kind words, too!
Dancing in public, alone or otherwise, sounds downright terrifying. At least to me.
This post, however? Totally charming. I love the gifs!
Thanks, Anne! Dancing in public with your eyes closed makes it a little easier :)
Love this. ❤️
Thank you so much!
Tatiana! It's always a pleasure to read your work. I have not danced alone...but I most definitely channel my Cuban abuela when I hear a beat. The TikTok was also fabulous. Keep dancing.
Gracias, Israel! Like my abuela says, "He bailado todo el pelo que tengo en mi cabeza" jajaja
Jajaja, esta bueno eso. Y de nada!
L O V E D this! I am definitely a private at-home dancer (wait that kind of sounds like I'm a dancer for hire lol) but never thought of going alone to dance. Thanks for opening my eyes to this! 💗✨
LOL "private at-home dancer" that made me cackle. But i totally know what you mean—I was one too!
Thank you for the kind words <3
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